tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4587674218992969044.post1637003264785728179..comments2023-10-11T21:34:50.337+10:30Comments on Beyond The Dream Of Motherhood: Post Fertility Books?Annie Zhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/13511943107737624183noreply@blogger.comBlogger7125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4587674218992969044.post-30253927926089802852013-10-08T09:36:48.283+10:302013-10-08T09:36:48.283+10:30Thanks Anonymous!Thanks Anonymous!Annie Zhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13511943107737624183noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4587674218992969044.post-19747741210585494022013-10-03T14:59:13.462+09:302013-10-03T14:59:13.462+09:30Unsung Lullabies: Understanding and Coping with In...Unsung Lullabies: Understanding and Coping with Infertility by Janet Jaffe, David Diamond and Martha Diamond Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4587674218992969044.post-85292600359387272692013-10-02T15:37:52.346+09:302013-10-02T15:37:52.346+09:30Wow, Loribeth. This is amazing!!!!!!!!!!! Thank ...Wow, Loribeth. This is amazing!!!!!!!!!!! Thank you for taking the time to share all this information!<br />xxxxxAnnie Zhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13511943107737624183noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4587674218992969044.post-54314560415269648662013-10-02T00:43:30.010+09:302013-10-02T00:43:30.010+09:30I just hit publish on a response & I don't...I just hit publish on a response & I don't know where it went to?? <br /><br />I wanted to say -- there are more out there (although I would say Lisa & Pamela's are right at the top of the list!). Unfortunately, some of them are 20-30 years old & out of print or hard to find. I would suggest you go to Amazon & search for "childless" "childfree" & then combine those terms with "infertility" & you should find quite a few. Also, there are many other books out there aimed at the childfree by choice crowd -- don't discount those, they often have some good stuff in them that makes you think. <br /><br />A couple, off the top of my head: <br /><br />* Sweet Grapes by Jean & Michael Carter -- this is considered a classic in the field. Caveat: it was written in the early 1980s, when there were not as many fertility treatment options out there as there are today to muddy the waters. It also includes adoption as a choice for moving beyond treatment. I found their whole idea of "choice" -- that if you make a conscious choice to be childfree, all will be well -- a bit annoying. I found myself muttering, "some choice...!" And yet there's truth in what they say -- that it may be better to make a firm decision than to drift endlessly. Some good basic advice. <br /><br />* Never to be a Mother by Linda Hunt Anton <br /><br />* I Don't Need a Baby to Be Who I Am by Joan Brady <br /><br />* Life Touches Life by Lorraine Ash -- more of a stillbirth memoir, but she & her husband decided not to try again. <br /><br />* Beyond Childlessness by Rachel Black. This has some good stuff in it but I haven't finished it. I find myself getting annoyed because she includes secondary infertility in her definition of "childlessness." I don't discount the pain of secondary infertility -- but not being able to have ANOTHER child is NOT childlessness!! :p <br /><br />Jody Day of Gateway Women has a new book out, I haven't read it yet, but am looking forward to it. :) It's called "Rocking the Life Unexpected." <br /><br />I wanted to add that Miriam's book is not about living childfree specifically... she did wind up adopting. But it is a great book that recognizes the toll that infertility treatment can take. <br /><br />Also, if you go to my blog, I have some links in the sidebar on the right-hand side to sites & message boards, etc. -- Although some of the links are out of date... time for a blog cleanup soon, methinks...! I've also been thinking I should add a reading list tab, & this response will provide with me a good basis for that...! ; ) <br /><br />Hope this helps...loribethhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09272814565916935113noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4587674218992969044.post-72836861687126067892013-10-01T21:55:47.235+09:302013-10-01T21:55:47.235+09:30I also don't know others except Lisa Manterfie...I also don't know others except Lisa Manterfield's book. Amelhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16792921371964029469noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4587674218992969044.post-67004791671881208682013-10-01T15:45:14.480+09:302013-10-01T15:45:14.480+09:30That's right! I knew there was another one o...That's right! I knew there was another one out there I had seen. Thanks Klara!<br />The therapist had other books that she loaned out to other women. I will get a list of them from her.<br />xxAnnie Zhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13511943107737624183noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4587674218992969044.post-61744720771770150162013-10-01T13:56:28.153+09:302013-10-01T13:56:28.153+09:30hi Annie,
I am not sure, but I think that Miriam a...hi Annie,<br />I am not sure, but I think that Miriam adopted a child. <br /><br />Additional book that I also liked:<br />Lisa's I'm Taking My Eggs and Going Home: How One Woman Dared to Say No to Motherhood <br />(doesn't have a book a cool title?)<br /><br />I hope that there is some other book out there.... I would love to read it.Klarahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17028863974858724867noreply@blogger.com