tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4587674218992969044.post4693303481897080012..comments2023-10-11T21:34:50.337+10:30Comments on Beyond The Dream Of Motherhood: Graduating to a new levelAnnie Zhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/13511943107737624183noreply@blogger.comBlogger3125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4587674218992969044.post-41196510148919268162013-10-30T01:30:02.745+10:302013-10-30T01:30:02.745+10:30You mentioned finding reasons its better you dont ...You mentioned finding reasons its better you dont have kids and asked if they were excuses to help you feel better. Yes they are and there is nothing wrong with that. I heard an interesting talk from a neurologist on the radio and he was talking about how the human brain is designed to cope with disappointment. The "excuses" or self preservation thoughts are your brain doing its job. He said people who learn to effectively cope with disappointment are happier than a person who regularly gets what they want. So embrace those self preservation thoughts. Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4587674218992969044.post-329373955321509242013-10-29T15:57:55.614+10:302013-10-29T15:57:55.614+10:30It's always lovely to hear from you Amel. Tha...It's always lovely to hear from you Amel. That is a good description - a battle between heart and mind. They are definitely at odds at the moment. Thanks for sharing your own understandings of the journey. Annie Zhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13511943107737624183noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4587674218992969044.post-14412473999278411932013-10-28T20:13:24.253+10:302013-10-28T20:13:24.253+10:30Yep, in the beginning I felt like there was a batt...Yep, in the beginning I felt like there was a battle between heart and mind. My mind - with its self-preservation mode - kept on injecting myself with words like "letting go" and finding all the good things in life without children, but my heart was still in mourning and it refused to follow the pace of my mind. It takes a while until both mind and heart align. <br /><br />I'm glad you've found places where you can talk about these things. LOVE your attitude: here's to your journey and to finding your womanhood! :-) I'm honored to be a witness and I can't wait to learn more things from your journey. :-) Amelhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16792921371964029469noreply@blogger.com